Travis Kelce and Taylor Swift’s engagement pressure mounts, but marriage isn’t for everyone

After Travis Kelce congratulated Hailee Steinfeld and Josh Allen on their engagement, it is the dominant storyline, at least.

In a collaborative Instagram post on Friday, Steinfeld leans in and rests her forehead against Allen’s. The water provides the background, while cylindrical candles encircle the couple.

The pair did not specifically mention their engagement status in the text of their shot, which read 11 22 24. The couple’s agents have been contacted by USA TODAY for comment.

Many Instagram users were enraged by Kelce’s congrats response, which contained four emojis and three exclamation marks.

More than 200 people responded to the comment as of Monday morning, and about 14,000 people liked it. Many of them speculated that he will be the next person to get engaged to girlfriend Taylor Swift. One responder remarked, “You next.” Another said, “Your move, bro.”

However, as marriage is not for everyone, it is not a good idea to pressure someone to get engaged, get married, or take any other significant love step.

In the United States, marriage is progressively falling, and according to a 2019 survey, three out of ten people don’t think it matters.

According to relationship expert and psychotherapist Antonia Hall, author of The Ultimate Guide to a Multi-Orgasmic Life, people have been experimenting with unconventional relationship styles for decades, she told USA TODAY.

We are getting used to different family paradigms, and societal attitudes on cohabitation have improved. There is no one-size-fits-all approach to partnerships, as we are progressively coming to understand.

Why we judge those who don t want to get married

People who refuse to get married are stigmatized by society, even though well-meaning people usually encourage others to do so. Swift and Kelce come under more scrutiny for everything they do, especially when they aren’t wearing rings.

This is because, in general, when we are unable to categorize people into well-defined groups, our society functions in dread.

Weena Wise, a licensed professional marriage and family therapist, argues that we judge others when they don’t fit neatly into a box.

It has long been believed that a traditional marriage is the greatest way to raise children and that it offers security and comfort. Experts claim that this isn’t always the case.

Rather, a lot of people have an idealized idea of what marriage should be like. Without knowing the truth, they think marriage is straightforward and easy.

As Hall notes, marriage might be viewed as a goal achieved that no longer needs work, which is completely untrue. Because of this, it’s all too normal for couples to stop trying and take each other for granted in long-term partnerships and marriages.

When couples wait to get married

It’s not necessary to propose and be married in order to keep a meaningful relationship going, Hall said, despite what many people think. Actually, it also doesn’t show that you love your mate.

“There’s something very romantic about consciously choosing someone day after day, rather than just seeing one’s relationship partner as a given,” she says, adding that everyone wants to feel wanted and appreciated, especially by their spouses.

According to Wise, I commend people who steer clear of the marriage matrix and refrain from getting married too young or for the wrong reasons. Without being married, you can still be in a healthy relationship or be completely content.

Not to mention that everyone has a different idea of what constitutes a good, long-term relationship, even though traditional weddings are effective for certain people.

Both Swift and Kelce, who are in their mid-30s, have previous experience with relationships. If and when they are on solid (holy) ground, they will probably engage.

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